Disclaimer: The stupid write-up below is fully based on my experience with anger and its resemblance to your experience (if you’ve had any) is purely coincidental. I’ve not used even a fraction of my brain while writing it. It’s all situational.
Anger is a reflex that we can’t control at times. It just comes and takes over your mind. Till the time it’s on you, it hampers your thoughts and affects your speech. At times, it leaves you speechless. I guess it’s quite a high level of anger that makes you speechless, makes you shiver, and blocks your mind. No, I’m not trying to write what anger is about. I’m trying to write my experience of it; a kind that happens rarely.
What are we supposed to do if we’re THAT angry? Count till 10? When you’re shivering with anger, would you even remember that you’re supposed to count till 10? Nope. Then what? Am I supposed to take long deep breaths? May be I’m already exhaling fiercely like an angry bull! My eyes, ears, and speech are blocked. My mind is too busy handling the shit that made me THAT angry and refuses to understand anything. I might not say anything or I might scream my lungs out. Isn’t it normal? Yes, it is.
Okay, I might call up a close friend and vent it all on him/her. I need someone who can listen to what I have to say. I need someone who can listen to me even when I’m not saying anything. Someone who can listen without interrupting me. Advising me about what to do, what I am supposed to, what I could have done, etc. is going to be useless at that point of time. That’s because my brain’s door is shut and nothing can enter.
Now, what if this person takes offense because I shouted in front of him on something which he doesn’t have a clue about and then thinks that I’m shouting on HIM? Ok, then you feel like tearing your hair too.
How on earth am I supposed to take it out? I can’t keep it inside. I can’t take long breaths, count till 10, or tell my brain to shut up and remain calm. Should you not just let me talk it out? Alright, read it as "scream it out"!
What if I break a thing or two? Can I? Plllleeeeeeeeaaaaaaaassssssssssssssseeeeeeee!
TrOuBlE BuBbLe (",) 
Hey there, I had this anger problem too and I got it partially solved via meditation. The root technique is to look at what causes anger. More often that not, it’s a manifestation of our inability to accept things/people/situations. It becomes easier once you start accepting that it’s te diversity of people and situations which makes life interesting.On a lighter note, if u r angry, it helps to take it out rather than suppress it. A sound proof room in your house can help, just go inside and srceam out aloud :)Cheers,Manik
If you havent already, do see Anger Management; Adam Sandler rocks in the movie.
it seems that sb. made you angry…
Why not throw the pillow to the wall~
anger is not good for health~~
ladoooooooo ari pagliiii ajaaaaaaaa….sari duniya bahar meh jayeh….aajaaaa riii….
ari laa tho kuch aam ladoo ke liyeh….kuch kha legi pehle….
mmmm ye sab baad meh paring……
Scream ….shout …………………Should i say .But no ma friend try to stay calm…Is the thing ur angry abt worth to act this way..Its not healthy Ur heart is doing overtime….
At the moment u react…..I know..But try to think F***K I turn my head and try to focus
on other things…..
But helas we are human..and its not easy i know….
Do TC Divy and stay calm
I give u a warm hug….
ariii sun ek website khola hai mene…
howtodehairabear@dqpvt.com
eeew!
Bubble whats going on? itna gussa kyon aata hain divoo ko??
Scream,shout,blog,talk,dance,jump,take a walk in a nursery amongst the greenery,click snaps, switch off,cry,see a funny movie,meditate,yoga……..do anything,girl,to get it out of your system….
Are you missing him?These are classic symptoms when one is missing the loved one :)…..confusion,anger,helplessness,more anger,agitation,more more anger,too much work,dil aur dhadkan pardesh mein ,shareer apne desh mein… hmmmmm…:D
Thanks for the guidance Bubble,managed to do it :)!!
Kids are necessary evils and do change the life completely :)!! Motherhood teaches many a thing!! I have become closer to my mom since i have had her! Can understand the concern,the paranoia,love etc better now! Realisation dawns……
Moms rule obviously ;)…rather females do! My daughter gave her dad a card saying.."you da man,dad…..mom da boss’…..!!!!!Hail venus brigade 🙂
Tc and keep that chin up!
Love and hugs
Dids
Oye angry young woman….I m here 2 stay….hehehe…dint went 2 watch any movie in theate…mera DVD player Zindabaad…watched Dodgeball, Usual suspects, Signs bas aise hi purani dhurani movies…so wht r u upto??
if you’re asking if i need you.
the answer is forever
if you’re asking if i’ll leave you
the answer is never
if you’re asking what i value.
the answer is you.
if you’re asking if i love you.
the answer is yes i do!
…
your new theme looked very nice ne!
have a great weekend!
(^^)v peace
Hi bubble,enjoy the movie and take good care! Couldn’t have done the space ka ‘makeover’ without your help,thanks 🙂
Keep smiling and enjoy
Love
Sonia
As you go along in life, you run out of steam to get angry. The realisation that nothing is really worth getting your BP up and ruining the better part of the day.
Bye for now…and keep smiling…don’t get angry!
LOve, R.di.
Hi Divoo…your Space looks great in Black…and so does Sonia’s! Black is the colour of mystery, and it is also a fashion statement. Way to go!
kemon Achish!!Artcile kubh bhalo achis!!So BubbleJitna jor Se CHila sako Chilou!!Sabse acha Anger Magnt hai!!bye Chintan…
Ahhh yes anger ~smiles~. I wrote about anger yesterday. Sometimes it’s good and sometimes it isn’t. Sometimes anger can cause you to react in a protective manner, but sometimes people suffer from bullish anger. They hate themselves or their situation so they take it out on everyone they meet. You have the right ideal though, disappear and watch a movie, and then maybe you will feel better.
I don’t know who made you mad but they must really suck! ~smiles~.
Ahh yes blue and yellow make my favorite color; Green. The passion of the Universal Fabric melding with the sun brings forth new life and abundance. ~smiles~.
Love,
Adam
Divoo,
True, a mad burst of anger cannot be controlled by counting 10. But if you can understand what makes you angry and if you can minimise the adverse effects of those factors, I feel you would be able to control your levels of anger.
Its not simple that someone said ‘Anger is one letter short of Danger’. Anger is dangerous to us to people around us. It is detrimental in all aspects.
I was like this. My anger was uncontrollable, almost hysterical. But what is the use or outcome of that anger? Nothing. I focussed my attention on what made me angry. It has helped… I am surprised how calm i can remain in most situations. Also that anger needs to go out of us… if we find a suitable/constructive channel.. even better… :))) I go and have a stern word with the watchman for not doing his duty properly or do something similar where I can find a subtle release to my anger… We all want to know that we are in control Divoo, when we know that we are at peace.
We have only this one life and it is the only thing that we can call our own. It is in our hands what we want to do with it.
I hope I have not crossed my limits.
Take care Divoo… Have a great weekend
Divya
I have an exceptional emotional intelligence. I hope that you too can and would take a joke.
Go on – you break anything you want to but …… do not break wind…:x)
I am against violence – physical, emotional, financial, and of course Olfactory 🙂
On a more serious note: you have touched on a very serious matter of emotional intelligence – the kind that leads to Columbine and Hamish Community Massacre recently besides innumerable such previous cases.
How best to use the adrenalin of the seething anger constructively to win the argument and the battle and the struggle and the crusade has been the ‘safar’ ‘journey’ of my life.
todo fodo..cmon throww loudly go go go some more..not the vase..yeah the pillow tear it apart yeah baby thats the way!
satisfied?
Hello Divoo,
What? You with anger that bad? It need not be so. If it must be, then let it be so but then when the anger subside evaluate if the anger was worth the exertion of the irritant. Meditate on these things and decide what is worth getting angry about and what is not.
Maybe the new color on your blog is affecting you or writing about white which is not necessarilly pure. Find a soothing color, something neither too bright nor too dull. The magical mystery tour of the mystical, mythical snow on my blog casued great yawns and nods of the head and thus the change to shades of blue. You did say you like my new look and it feels nice. Maybe that is what you need rather than black or white – the sky.
Peace & Blessings.
Anger makes you do that you would not generally dare doing. It pushes you to the edge.Anger is good.
just go, run , run kick that thing, that thing only yaar, ya, that only. kick it as hard!!!!! else write , not sensible blog or article or anything, just write, scratch on the paper…. as much as u can till u feel like… "hhhhh…. i am stopping now.. " daz wen ur anger level comes way down.. coz action speak louder than words,, ya.? so just act dont say anything , ok, cant control but wana say rather shout, yell. then go to bathroom, shout as much as u can.. and if that irritating neighbour comes, say, "everything is fine. i was just excited.. i was watching The Simpsons.. thanks 4 da concern.." or if u wana break, then my dear sis, goooooooo!!!!!!!!! break it… break anything u want… wait, thr r exceptions…. ok? hope u get that… and still again the neighbour comes all frowned, just say or u can say that in one degree louder voice, " thanks . everything is fine. I was thinking of renovating my home… any problem.. its too old u see… this chair and tables, and these…. bla bla.. "
so, u get my point?? and u r dead right, anger has to come ut, aakhir klab tak ander man mein khichdi pakega.. hai ki nahi??? last mein jal jaayega… ya.. so, these r some ways to take it out…
a joke for u, happened with me yesterday. i’ll say in bullet points. lol
– after school, we had to put up posters for a competiton coming up.
– we were walking around da scul.. puttin gthem up.
– suddenly, i realise,d i dnt hav my mobile fone in my pocket.
– damn!!!! bammm!!! panic!!!!!!!
– ….
-….
– wot nxt, posters??? or student centr to report i hv lost my cell fone??? obviously, 2nd one.
– filled out that long long form with irritating Q like, time of loosing (hell, how would i knw that?), cost (took me hell lot of time yet again to convert Indian ruppes in dollars.. i did mental maths in that panicky situation.. imagine!!!?? ) , looks (my fone looks glamourous, any doubt??) , whr did u loose it? ( ya, i ws standing thr looking at some one who was stealing it and said, Good bye dear!) .. bla bla..
– on my way to stdnt centr- met this random guy – on detention- picking rubbish- askd me to pik that stupid wrappr of pie.. i yelled at hm," v hv a deal! ok. u find my fone, i pik that wrapper. wot do u think? m hea to pik rubish!!!? idiotss!!! hell!!!" i ws so upset with my cel fone siatuion.
– he, said, no, yelled (tit 4 tat) – "aha, do u think i m piking rubish coz i am a black??? coz i am black???? wot do u think, huh???? tell me??? "" Jesus, i was frustrated and thr was this sample who yelled at me.. didnt repond back and went home crying..
– went home crying like anything!!!
-crying……
– found my fone lying on that study table whr i never study!!!
…
now? laugh,
see u!
Hey, I am not doing what you are doin… keep updating.
Its all the time.. I guess.. will update soon.
Stay in touch..
Seeya..
-M-
Just heading out on a weekend…
me myself.. and ..
smiles
-M-
Hi Troublebubble,
Our response to anger is just as spontaneous as our reflexes. I believe there is nothing much you can do to improve on the spontaenous reaction. But at times we tend to hold on to the anger and that is something we can definitely improve on. Yes we fumble a lot of time, there is absolutely nothing that you can if the person felt offended. If the person understands you then he/she will be by your side with an understanding that you never meant any harm and for the rest you simply dont care.
As for Casablanca, I am not sure if you will be able to get DVD for it is pretty old movie (somewhere in early 40s). Tell me or else I can send you a copy of DVD, that I have.
Oye Divoo!
ek baat poochna tha yaar.. help chahiye, pls.. u knw how u use images at the end or even in middle of ur blogs, all are sized differently.. how do u do that?? i wanted to do it but u knw how when u enter the html link, its like a small picture, really small may be 3 cm by 3 cm or 4 cm by 4 cm.. something like that… so if u could explain me how u do it, it would be appreciated!
Thanks!
Regards
Ipsh!! 🙂
Hi Divoo,
Don’t angry so much try to have a buble bath with glass of champagne…
Please calm down..it ‘s not good for to get upset ?
You can talk to your friends that I’m sure she ‘ll listent for you….
I hope you are feeling better tomorrow. BIG HUGS.
Michiko
Ladoo….so much you said…….sachai kahi goonj uthi….bless you!
anddd awwww…jesus talk of mah hairyness….i am a hairy highness now looool!
Mujeh ani ki bahut yaad ayi ladoo…ab tho dastak bhi sunahi nahi deti janab ko!
You have met him…itna sur chaara hai woh?
eww usseh bula na…dil nahi lageh hai!
mmmpph
Lollllllll
yes u can dear!!! break as many things as u want… baas mere chijoko chuna maat!
u shall learn from me how to keep peace on anger….. lol……
patah nehin Aunty Divoo ko Gussa Keu Ata Hai!
lol!
enjoY!!
funny u r
I used to break things when I was younger, I dont do that anymore after having bought most of the things and realising that these things cost money LOL! 😛
\Anyways, get a punching bag woeman and punch the shit out of it, in no time you will have nice sexy toned arms also, be a good wrestler too so that no road side romeo will dare mess with you AND you would have gotten it all out too.
It aint that expensive, so get yourself one now! The level of anger that you’re talking about, I do reach sometimes, when I clench my fists and teeth and scream but then normally I break out into tears!
Anyways!
Rock On
Krits
hi dost…….hmm……..anger buri cheez ane andar kabhi mat rakho…..todna hai to kisi dushman ka sur todo…..apni cheezen nahin……..Ani ki tod sakti ho…lol…!!!
jahan tak sunne ki bat hai……..without interuptin and with out advising…..wht to do…….hum hain na……..pen it down…n pin it down…..then smile….!!!!
tc
pratima
hello there amazing poet…um you are the amazing poet right who once called flucee and then divoo and then trouble bubble??
sigh your so true about anger…if only breaking of objects inlcuding certain humans were allowed..;)
cheers!!
You can’t hurt an inanimate object so break away if it helps you to feel better!
Scandie
No chant…Solution:Rant on ur BoyFriend/Hubby/GirlFriend/Wife (Whichever applies)He/She will understand. A kiss or two might add to the effective damage controllers. If he/she doesent…I must say Bad Luck…you might get angry about that.
If you find some answer will you please let me know?
I smile a lot and joke around most of the time. But when I get angry, really angry I pity who stands in-front of me or someone it is directed against. I erupt! It is just like I can’t think anything and I had this stupid hat on.
I really have to take it out and once I’m done I will be go back to my old self shamelessly. Ah the fuse!! The short fuse!!!
If you find some answer will you please let me know?
I smile a lot and joke around most of the time. But when I get angry, really angry I pity who stands in-front of me or someone it is directed against. I erupt! It is just like I can’t think anything and I had this stupid hat on.
I really have to take it out and once I’m done I will be go back to my old self shamelessly. Ah the fuse!! The short fuse!!!
Hi Miss Creative,
Seems you are quite angry …… Bachao…..
Please bash one or two things around you & you will feel better ….
I know we cannot just stop our anger instantly, but over the time we can work on it ….dun know much but pesonal experience says if you learn to Control your anger & mould it into the dedication to take on any challenge in front of you ….you will get a NEVER SAY DIE attitude in urself takin on the battle of life one after another
CHILL OUT !!!!!!!!
Have Fun
Rohit.
hi divoo,hoe are you???great to listen you too going home..now i dont have to think twice while going home..i can directly land there…happy diwali to you and ur family…do enjoy it a lot…
ONE MORE THING I CANT GET MY MEDIA PLAYER WORKING EVERYTIME URL IS WRONG
HELP HELP HELP !!!!!!!!!!
yawnnnnnnn!!!!!! mmmmm ladoooooooooo hugssssss…..freezer se nikala hai tera stored hug! brrrr!
Dekh na ladoo ani aya…mujeh jawab na dekar mujeh cherta hai….
yu bhi koi kissi ko sataye hai?
sniff ab ek aur huggie chahiye!!!!
ok, keep some beer bottles, and smash them everytime you get angry!! hahaha…. YOu have my permission to break something, just do it farrrrrrrrrr away ok??? hehe… Take care Bubble!
don’t go crazy yet. I know, I know, just throw all that anger at your boyfriend. LOL
omg..can u believe this divoo..i was thinkin bout the same thing the other day..were u also watching this stupid show on india tv where psycologists n yogists were counselling ppl on how to deal with anger..hah n beat this..my mom dragged me outa mah room to make me watch that thing..now that does make me angry..lol.. =) ..next time, think of me when ur angry..u’ll be laughin on ur own..or remember aniruddh..mamu!! ;> ..peace<3<3<3
tat guy wid me in the pic is a parikarma band member . .
he plays the piano . . and is really cool . . u must have seen ppl jumping and shaking their heads while playing guitar and drums .. but he .. bangs his head ( wid those long hairs … long hairs ) jumps . . . lol . . is kewl ..
Njoi .. !~~~